Rejection; this doesn't balance

Fear rejection. Rejection hurts. It’s not something extraordinary to see that so many people fear rejection. The problem is not that these people fear rejection, it’s that these people never get over that fear. One has to fight a fear in order to get over it. It’s not easy. It’s never easy. That’s why it’s hard. What’s incredible is when the switch flips. When you see someone suddenly gain confidence in oneself. They are driven by something. Sometimes it’s an internal fire or a change in habit or attitude. Other times, there’s something that attracts them so much that they can’t say no. They won’t accept rejection. This latter situation is perilous though, because the world isn’t perfect, nor fair. Sometimes even when a person won’t accept rejection, it is that much harder of a fall when it comes nonetheless. Then, that person is caught in that deep voidless area where they feel helpless and worthless. This is the opposite of that great confidence seen in a person. It is true despair. If there’s anything that saves people from these extremes, it’s a person’s level-headedness. Being realistic, honest, and maintaining a cool head despite the situation prevents the despair. It also learns to understand rejection as something that is not usually an agent of their own cause. Usually rejection comes from external circumstances that someone who fears rejection refuses to see. Just one reason to chill-out.

A story amongst the light

There are stories all around us. Sitting outside, surrounded by so many other people, we hardly remember that everyone in this crowd has a story. We tend to bunch them up into one big ball of “other” and throw them away. Or, at least, we don’t recognize the worth in their story. Their stories don’t matter to my story since I don’t know their stories. If I knew their stories then they would simply be a part of my story. That’s such a cruddy attitude to have. Each person has a story. Each person has a before, a now, and an after. Each person has a long string of events that makes up who they are at this very moment. It makes up a story that is guided in a certain direction, but a direction that could change at any time.  Yes, I have my story, but even acknowledging that everyone else has a story too allows that person to have a position of worth.  It's not necessarily important to know what the story is, because there's no way we could all know everyone else's story.  And really, isn't everyone's story just part of one huge massively intricately designed book?  Maybe take some time and listen to a story; listen to a life.